A recent review of the literature by Kenneth Vail and
associates found that when people are reminded of their mortality, they are
more likely to be good to others and to themselves (http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/05/the-secret-to-a-long-life-is-thinking-about-death/257675/). In one study, for
example, people were found to be more helpful to others when they were in the
vicinity of a cemetery than when they were not.
Other studies have found that when people are
reminded of death, they are more likely to engage in healthy behaviors such as
using sun screen, exercising more, and performing breast self-exams. They are also more likely to engage in
pro-environmental behaviors.
The elderly are not necessarily more aware of
their mortality than others, but based on this sample of one, myself, I believe
they are. If I’m right about that, does
it follow that the elderly are kinder to others and do they take better care of
themselves than is true for the general population? My wife tells me that I’m a much nicer guy
these days, but if true, it is probably one of the effects of my hormone
treatment, which has drastically reduced the amount of testosterone in my body,
rather than an outcome of age.
When I think about the old people I have
known, including my aunts and uncles, some were generous and kind in old age,
while others were crabbed and selfish.
Awareness of death may have intensified their character traits, but not
changed them. They were much the same in
old age as they were when they were younger.
I don’t believe that awareness of death has
made me kinder to others or to myself. But
it has had other valuable effects. First, I’m
less upset and more tolerant of the troublesome behavior of others and of the
inevitable contretemps one encounters in everyday life than I used to be – life’s too short to obsess about such things
– and second, I’m constantly aware of how good it is to be alive. I’m thankful for every day.
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